What Marriage Is Not & What It Should Be

Marriage is not a free pass or a security blanket. All too often marriage is taken for granted with the mindset of complacency. Here's what I'm talking about: You get married and then you let yourself go and get lazy about fitness or eating habits, because you're married and your partner loves you no matter what so why try. Or, you stop being sexy and flirty or intimate and get all put out when there are complaints from your spouse, because you're married now so there is not effort needed ... you're partner will just have to deal 'cause your married ... you have a piece of paper that binds you after all. Or, you don't have to try and grow and be functional or appropriate with your spouse because you vowed 'til death do you part not realizing that the death of your relationship happens right when that complacency sets into your relationship. The lists and examples of how so many take advantage of the binding of marriage rather than the honoring of the binding of marriage are endless.

What marriage should be is the honoring of your vows every day. A renewing of your love every day. Every day should be a renewal and a vulnerability to your partner. Communication and an open heart are keys to not falling prey to the wedge of complacency. A marriage is no ego, no competition, no secrecy to lend to mistrust. A healthy marriage is one that is treated like it expires and will without effort and care and renewal daily....every day.