We all need to be heard, even if not completely understood. What is it to be "heard" and to hear others? Simple, listen to what is actually being said without your judgment or thoughts interfering with the other's voice. The alternative is an imbalanced relationship that will not lead to any place a relationship can be functional or lasting.
If you find yourself in a relationship where your voice is not important, is it really a relationship? Figure out why you are not being heard...or the flip side, why you are not valuing the other person in the relationship to listen and hear them. A real relationship is one where both persons involved are heard and have a voice...an exchange of thought and feelings. Otherwise, there is dysfunction and unhealthy boundaries leading to all kinds of bad, negative behavior.
If you find yourself in a relationship where your voice is not important, is it really a relationship? Figure out why you are not being heard...or the flip side, why you are not valuing the other person in the relationship to listen and hear them. A real relationship is one where both persons involved are heard and have a voice...an exchange of thought and feelings. Otherwise, there is dysfunction and unhealthy boundaries leading to all kinds of bad, negative behavior.
How do you know if you're not listening? Are you anxiously waiting for the other person to finish so you can say your peace? You're probably not listening :)
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