It really isn't all just about you! The world is not out to get you. Your coworkers are not out to wreck your life. Whatever the situation or relationship, it's not just you or your feelings or your perspective in the mix. We take everything so personally....In most cases everyone is primarily thinking only about themselves, their perspective, their hurts, their wants and in doing so getting offended, slighted, hurt, misused because we take it from the vantage point of it being about us. Just step off the vanity wheel and realize that the world and all circumstances do not revolve around you and you alone! Try to see things from the other person's perspective before just dissolving in your own hurts or slights. Realize that we misinterpret others a huge chunk of the time based on our past hurts and unresolved messiness. Take a moment and determine what you're bringing into a situation/relationship from prior experiences that might be tainting your interaction....and ask, ask, ask. Rather than stewing over something you are perceiving, ask for clarity from the person involved. How silly to just stew and create a big mess over something that could be defined and "fixed" by openly discussing your feelings!
You're right, I see this in my kids all the time. To the point they'll hear a fragment of a conversation and immediately assume they're being made fun of or put down. And yet, I still spend so much time doing the same thing.
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