We all want to belong. Sometimes in that desperation to feel a part of something, we are apart from what matters. Be sure what you are doing isn't just undoing you and all of what you believe. You cannot force a situation or relationship, and why would you even want something forced? If you are having to force your will onto someone else without finding out why you are forcing it, and they are running, then it is not real for you or them. Further, if you are not interested in the "why", then you also don't really care more than your "want".
This is one of those things that is easy to see in my children; but so hard to apply to my own life. I see them trying to fit in, wanting certain toys and material items to be "cool", and the pain they go through when they feel like they're not being accepted. And the answer is so easy to see there. They each have incredible strengths that others respect; if they'd just accept their weaknesses along with their strengths, and celebrate the strengths of their friends, all would be happy.
ReplyDeleteBut how many times have I been tempted to shop around for a new, less embarrassing phone, considered trying to cover up my mistakes instead of owning them, or been afraid to start a project because it involves a skill I'm not strong in? All because I'm worried what "people" will think. I don't even really care what "people" will think, and yet public perception continues to hold a giant vote in my day to day life. And when looked at in that way, well it's just ridiculous, I just don't have time or patience to try and find public approval with my every action. As long as they don't violate my core principles. Speaking of which, it's time to bring back wearing socks with sandles. :)