Only sharing the "good" parts works, but it's fake. Only sharing the negative view point relays a whole other host of dysfunction. The Facebook syndrome of sharing all the trumped up press release version of a life you don't even live but maybe a blip of a second and then it's over and the real stuff, the lazy, gross, dysfunctional stuff gets buried so deep inside of you that it becomes this overwhelming burden of shame you carry around with you day in and day out. Or, just as bad, you believe your own press and are this side of a sociopath in the buried misrepresentation of your life, activities, and relationships. What's worse, is most participate in this and don't even realize what's wrong with the lies....because that's what it ends up being. Displaying a five second feeling or happening that nowhere comes close to what your life or relationship is...is a lie. The flip side, are the Eeyores posting completely blown out of proportioned whoa is me, feel sorry for me, beg me to let you help me nonsense. Having grown up with a borderline mother, trust me when I say the victim mentality is the most manipulative ego stroking lying disgusting behavior I've encountered.
So what's my point? At the end of the day, own your reality. I'm not suggesting you post only butterflies and fairy dust. Nor, am I saying that you should air your entire life online or to everyone you come in contact. I'm saying be honest with yourself and those in your circle. I've encountered way too many who become what they post online to everyone, and the 50th selfie pic becomes what they think they look like, their one trip to the garden makes them a gardener, their one hard day makes them a dedicated victim. Every activity or proof of a loving relationship doesn't need to be what you cling to and post....it's not who or what you are anyway, and the lies damage any hope to have it. What and who you are, what you have in your relationships, and all the rest is no different than the numerous attempts of taking your selfie pics.....what you really look like, have, are is when no one is watching or noticing. When you are truly yourself and comfortable and not acting, pretending, sucking it all in, that right there is you and your life. If that right there isn't where or what you want, then change it .... don't fake it so the world thinks better of you. And, don't post fake so you can get your ego soothed....it truly takes away from actually getting to the place you fake being.
So what's my point? At the end of the day, own your reality. I'm not suggesting you post only butterflies and fairy dust. Nor, am I saying that you should air your entire life online or to everyone you come in contact. I'm saying be honest with yourself and those in your circle. I've encountered way too many who become what they post online to everyone, and the 50th selfie pic becomes what they think they look like, their one trip to the garden makes them a gardener, their one hard day makes them a dedicated victim. Every activity or proof of a loving relationship doesn't need to be what you cling to and post....it's not who or what you are anyway, and the lies damage any hope to have it. What and who you are, what you have in your relationships, and all the rest is no different than the numerous attempts of taking your selfie pics.....what you really look like, have, are is when no one is watching or noticing. When you are truly yourself and comfortable and not acting, pretending, sucking it all in, that right there is you and your life. If that right there isn't where or what you want, then change it .... don't fake it so the world thinks better of you. And, don't post fake so you can get your ego soothed....it truly takes away from actually getting to the place you fake being.
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