What Teaches Children Trust v Distrust?

I saw a post on Facebook from someone blaming their mistrust in relationships on their parents' divorce when they were children. Interesting thought that gets batted about and used to excuse ones' issues. Here's the thing about blaming others for your lack of growth....it's not on them. Sure, parents screw up and are to blame for their actions (and their actions only). What we then do with our experiences from childhood (or from anything tragic or wonderful) is on us. We can either decide to grow beyond the bad and/or not let too much of the good corrupt us....or, we can go down bad paths and then later just excuse poor choices to that experience. One guess as to which to choose.....and which mostly gets chosen.

Divorce does not teach children not to trust. Parents married or divorced teach that if they act dysfunctionally and untrustworthy. Exiting a relationship that has been a trail of broken promises, lies, and broken if/then agreements; rather, teaches children that words matter, actions matter, and promises not kept have consequences (but only if the healthy parent(s) teach that lesson). Back to the initial point....whatever our parents taught us, the onus of our adult decisions is on whether we choose to blanket our lives in the excuses of the past or grow/move beyond them!